I Love You, I Want You Too
“Here is my secret. It is very simple: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye”. The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint–Exupéry
I would like to dedicate this post to the meaning on Love, starting by saying this should be present everyday, eventhough sometimes it is not easy to keep it as it deserves. We already addressed the importance of the quality of the time we spend with our kids or students, but we haven’t talk much about the importance of living our love, not only with them, but in family, with our couple.
One day in class, we were talking about how vulnerable we are, how we need to care for each other, how important is family, to have good friends, we were talking about the importance of understanding suffering and empathy, and how love, real love is very powerful source that make us grow, that helps caring for each other, and to solve problems. But also how important it is to love and to know ourselves, before loving others.
One of my students, an 11 year old girl, asked: How can we know love?. (Link to her Testimonial). I was prepared to answer from an adult point of view, but it was a tough question, because I could see she was really looking for an answer. After some comments about different concepts, loving, having, wanting, caring, protecting, controlling, respecting, giving, trusting… another student said: “I want to have things, that makes me happy. I love my things”.
This gave me the opportunity to remember a book a read when I was their age, Little Prince. During the break I looked for the book, and found this words that I want to share with you. Sometimes life takes us away from this path, but it is vital in order to keep our values. I hope this helps understanding the meaning of Love, and the importance of living it.
– “I love you” – said the little Prince.
– “I want you too” – said the rose.
– “Is not the same” – he answered…
To want, is to take possession of something, someone. It is to search in others those things that fill the personal expectations of affection, of company… Wanting is to make ours, what does not belong to us, it is to take ownership or desire something to complete us, because at some point we recognize we are lacking.
To Love is to wish the best for the other, even when it has very different motivations. To Love is to allow you to be happy, even when your path is different from mine. It is a selfless feeling which is born in a donation, is giving ourselves completely from the heart.
When we Love, we give ourselves without asking anything in return, just for the simple and pure pleasure of giving. But it is also true that this hand over, this giving, selfless, occurs only in the knowledge. We can only love what we know, because loving involves jumping into the void, trust the life and soul. And the soul is not compensated. And knowing is just to know yourself, your joys, your peace, but also of your anger, your struggles, your mistakes. Because love transcends the anger, fights, errors and it is not just for moments of joy.
To Love is a full confidence that whatever happens, you will be, not because you owe anything, not with selfish possession, but being, in silent company.
To Love is to know that the weather does not change you, nor the storms, or my winters.
To Love is to give you a place in my heart for you to stay, as father, mother, brother, son, friend, and know that there is a place in yours for me.
Giving love does not exhaust the love; on the contrary, it increases it. The way to give back so much love is to open your heart, and let you be loved”.
– “I already understood” – said the rose.
– “Don’t understand it, live it”- said the little Prince.